Have you ever complained about "how unfair life is?"
Shit happens. Things don't always go the way we want them to.
We often become jealous of others who "have it easy".
I'll confess… I sometimes do the same.
But let me share with you a story about two gentlemen…
This first gentleman is Ashton Kutcher. You might have heard of him. He is an actor who is pretty popular (with the ladies as well). Oh, he’s also one of the best angel investors in the world and is worth an estimated $205,000,000.
What if I told you he actually had a twin brother?
Well, it turns out he DOES. His fraternal twin is Michael Kutcher.
Here they are when they were younger...
Michael didn’t get the same genetic jackpot his brother Ashton did.
He has cerebral palsy and cardiomyopathy. He had to have a heart transplant as a teen. His walk is impaired and so is his speech, in addition to that, he has trouble performing physical tasks with his right side. That’s not all, he is 80 percent deaf in his left ear and has had two cataract surgeries.
Here is a picture of the Kutcher brothers in 2017.
The only thing fair about Michael Kutcher’s draw of the cards? His brother Ashton has spent countless time and money helping Michael and those like him.
And then we start to think about other individuals with similar inconveniences… but without a caring millionaire twin brother.
As a matter of fact, most of us reading this article have already won the lottery. We are already on the "lucky" side of the fence.
We could be born in another place with other problems.
Like a warzone. Or with other hereditary diseases.
Life isn't fair.
There are two types of people in this world…
The first group blames their circumstances and continues to live on with much unfulfilled potential... the losers.
The second group of people acknowledge the absolute reality of their circumstances but continues to strive everyday for their vision and goals... the winners.
This second group of people… are masters of their own fate.
Ashton Kutcher opened up about his brother:
"My brother was born with cerebral palsy and it taught me that loving people isn't a choice and that people aren't actually all created equal. The Constitution lies to us. We're not all created equal. We're all created incredibly inequal to one another, in our capabilities and what we can do and how we think and what we see.
But we all have the equal capacity to love one another, and my brother taught me that. When I got older, I spent years and years feeling bad about it, our inequalities. He also taught me that he had gifts that I didn't have. Extraordinary gifts that I didn't have, and that every time I felt sorry for him in life, I made him less. He taught me that and he gave that to me."
Sounds like Michael Kutcher is a master of his own fate.
It is what we do despite our circumstances that determines our destiny.
Don't let your circumstances dictate your life.
Life will never be fair.
If there is something about your life that you are discontented with, you need to change it yourself.
We can't expect life to correct itself and for things to be "fair".
Every day, we are faced with a decision:
- Are we going to blame our circumstances...
- Or are we going to grab life by the horns and take what we deserve?
If we choose the former, at least let it be a conscious decision. And remember, you have no right to complain because it is your choice.
And if we choose the latter but still fall short on our goals, at least we did our best and can sleep soundly at night with no regrets.
"Life is always what you make it, but it' s up to you to TAKE what you deserve." - David So
Be a master of your own fate.
Hat tip to Troy Adam for sharing this story on Quora (source).